Who Are You? Finding Your Identity

Living in today’s world is hard. So many people feel lost. Some question, “Who am I? How do I find my identity?  Does my life really matter?”  Furthermore, Google searches for these topics as well as the word “Hope” is on the rise. (1)

Let me give you good news.  Your life does matter.  You have value and worth. God has a purpose for you that no one else can accomplish, even in the difficult times that we are living.

Finding your identity in all the wrong places.

In a relationship

I remember the day I was engaged to be married, and the “candle lighting” ceremony that followed in the college dorm. Everyone was excited to find out who had snagged another eligible bachelor. Interrogation ensued by all the other nursing students. Who was he? How did we meet? What was his occupation? How much money did he earn? What kind of car did he drive? You get the picture. The more successful the young man was the more prestigious the young woman would be.

So tell me please, what happens when prince charming falls off his white steed and the relationship crumbles? Does the young woman suddenly have less value or worth? Does her life no longer matter? Breakups often catapult people into the pit of despair questioning who they are. I know. I have been there.

A spouse, however, is not the only relationship that people rely on to find their self-worth. Being a parent becomes the identity for some. But what happens if the child dies? Or turns their back on you and your values? Have you lost your identity? Do you no longer have a purpose? Are you to blame for what happened?

Sometimes people find their identity in who they know. When I was a child I remember telling a few people that I was a distant relative of the monarch of another country. In my mind that made me important.

Relationships do not define who we are.

In an occupation

When I graduated and began my career as a Registered Nurse, I felt pretty important. Years later I wondered, “What if I had an accident and couldn’t work in the medical field any longer? Would I still be important?”

Way too many professional athletes and movie stars end up committing suicide. Many others turn to drugs and alcohol to numb their feelings of inadequacy in spite of their so-called success.

An occupation does not define us. It is not who we are.

In the opinion of others

This is a dangerous road to travel. Our identity is not wrapped up in the opinions of other people. If we depend on someone else to validate our worth, we will be let down. There will always be someone who does not like us.

In a thousand other places

So where are you finding your identity? Fame? Fortune? Sports? Hobbies? Exclusive brand name clothes? Educational degrees? There is no end to the lies that many people believe will make them matter, make them valuable, make them important.

Life has a way of rearranging things. Does that also change our identity? The answer is no.

Don’t believe the lies. While there is nothing wrong with the previously mentioned things, they do not define who we are.

There is a better way.

Finding Your true identity

In the right relationship

There is only one relationship that will not disappoint. It is found in Jesus Christ. This is where we begin finding our true identity.

Human relationships are necessary. But humans change, sometimes for the better, sometimes not. Some people end up abandoning or hurting the very ones who once were their significant others. Jesus is the only relationship that remains true, does not change, and does no harm.

Do you know Jesus? If not, or if you have questions, please call 1-888-NEED-HIM. You can also “chat” at www.chataboutjesus.com. Someone is waiting there to talk to you.

In the right occupation

The good thing about a relationship with Jesus is that He gave us a job to do that we can always accomplish no matter what the circumstances. We are called to love God and love people. These are the two greatest commandments (Matthew 22:36-40). How that is demonstrated depends on our health, abilities, finances, and a myriad of other things. Regardless, we can always love God, and we can always love people.

In the right opinions

I wish as a young person I had realized how much God loved and cherished me. My understanding was minimal and because of it, I made many unwise choices. God’s opinion is what really matters. Here is just a portion of what the Bible says about finding your identity:

  • His love for us is everlasting (Jeremiah 31:3, Romans 8:38-39)
  • We are God’s handiwork, wonderfully made, created in God’s image (Psalm 139: 14, Genesis 1:27, Ephesians 2:10)
  • God will never leave us (Hebrews 13:5)
  • We are chosen by God (I Peter 2:9, John 15:16, Ephesians 1:4)
  • We are God’s children, daughters or sons of King Jesus (John 1:12, Galatians 3:26, I John 3:1-2, Romans 8:16)
  • We are God’s friends (John 15:15)
  • God provides for us physically and spiritually (Philippians 1:6, 4:13 and19, Galatians 5:22-23)
  • God knows everything about us and still loves us (Psalm 139: 1-24)

Lauren Daigle talks about God’s opinion of us in her song, You Say.

“I keep fighting voices in my mind that say I’m not enough . . . Remind me again just who I am . . . In you I find my worth, in you, I find my identity.”

Your true identity found

So who are you? Do you believe what God says? Have you found your true identity? It does take practice to think correctly and to keep your thoughts from holding you captive. Don’t believe the lies. Believe the one who truly loves you and gave His life for you.

Casting Crowns recorded the following song. I pray that it will bless you as much as it has me.

Who am I that the Lord of all the earth would care to know my name, would care to feel my hurt? …You’ve told me who I am, I am yours.

Since we are children of King Jesus, let us think and live like it. The following is a scripture card that you can download, no email required. Simply click on the image. When printed on card stock it can easily be laminated. Enjoy!

Blue background with a close up of a diamond tiara, and the text, "I'm a child of the king". This finding our true identity.

If you are looking for further scripture cards or coloring pages, please see the resource page.


  • (1) Global Media Outreach had a 170% increase in clicks on their search engine ads about finding hope (as reported in Turning Points Magazine, August 2020)

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