What Does The Bible Say About Loneliness As Christians

We all experience times in our lives when we feel like we are facing a situation alone. Whatever the circumstance; loss, abandonment, or rejection, feelings of loneliness can overtake us.

But what does the Bible say about loneliness? What is God’s perspective on these struggles we encounter? 

Causes of Loneliness

We typically think of being lonely when we are alone. When the house is quiet and no one is around…but this isn’t always the case. Sometimes we can feel lonely when there are other people in the room with us.

Feelings of loneliness can have nothing to do with actually being alone and everything to do with the connection we have with those in our lives.

As human beings, we need social relationships. When this connection doesn’t happen, it is broken, or we find ourselves struggling to find one, that is when we feel lonely. 

This can be as simple as watching a loved one get on an airplane to return home or as complex as sitting down during the holiday season knowing some people are absent because of choices that were made.

We find ourselves in a moment of loneliness because the deep connection we crave is not (or can not be) reciprocated.

What does the Bible say about loneliness?

God has a heart for those caught in situations that leave them feeling lonely. 

  1. Abandonment or rejection
  2. Life transitions
  3. Grief and loss

So let’s take a look at Bible verses that address these situations. 

Fear of abandonment or rejection is common. It is a basic human need to be accepted and surrounded by people who care about us. 

When there is abandonment by a parent, partner, or friend, it can take years to recover from the wound that is left.

Similar experiences may happen with rejection. When we have our heart set on something and it doesn’t go as expected or we are told we aren’t good enough, we find ourselves in pain.

The sting of abandonment or rejection will pierce deep. It will leave us with a broken heart.

Unfortunately in today’s age with social media, we can be reminded of this pain daily. It can be hard to escape feeling lonely when it surrounds us and we have the perception of social isolation.

Perhaps we see others enjoying life or the person who was chosen instead of us and our feelings of loneliness are mixed with jealousy. We see what we could have had and are left feeling empty.

The good news is we don’t have to let this control our lives. The first step is to remember that we live in God’s constant presence.

The Bible has countless verses that can remind us that not only are we worthy of love, but we are sheltered by our Creator’s righteous hand. Let’s explore some.

Psalm 27:10

Woman sitting alone wondering what does the Bible say about loneliness in Psalm 27:10
What does the Bible say about loneliness in Psalm 27:10

“Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me.” (ESV)

This is a good Bible verse for abandonment. 

To have a parent turn their back on us, people who should love us unconditionally is hard to accept. We look to parents as guides, they should be a support for us as we navigate life. 

If they reject or abandon us, it can leave us feeling lost.

Fortunately, this verse has two parts. We may be forsaken by those we love dearly but we will be received by God’s love!

The promise of God, His covenant is that we will always be part of His family. Once we accept Jesus as our Lord and Saviour, we become part of His flock and He will forever seek to ensure we are safe within the love of God.

1 Samuel 12:22

“For the sake of his great name, the LORD will not reject his people, because the LORD was pleased to make you his own.” (ESV)

This scripture is good for the state of mind brought on by rejection. 

Taking the previous verse one step further and looking to the Old Testament, we are reminded of God’s promise not to reject us. When we are sanctified by Him, we will always be His. Regardless of what we do or think, He will never turn us away. 

And the reason for this is the best part; the Lord was pleased to make you His own! Your God made you and called you by name, yes He knows who you are and He loves you! Rejection will never be part of your path with God.

There are periods in our lives when things have to change. New jobs, a change in postal code, children leaving the nest, or activities coming to an end. It can leave us wondering what is next. 

These transitions can also force us to say goodbye to family and friends, leaving us without those social connections we crave. And this can lead to feelings of loneliness!

It makes us wonder if we made the right choice. Did we uproot ourselves thinking the grass would be greener on the other side only to find out it was artificial?

It’s scary but this is when we need to turn to God and take refuge in the knowledge that if we have followed His directions, He will be our source of comfort. He is the “strength of my heart.” (Psalm 73:26) 

Jeremiah 29:11

Woman sitting alone and wondering what does the Bible say about loneliness in Jeremiah 29:11
What does the Bible say about loneliness in Jeremiah 29:11

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” (ESV)

The good news is our life transitions are God’s plans. He has a purpose for them and while we may feel uneasy at first, if we trust His promise, we know they will turn out as they should!

God knows the troubles of your heart and he has new friends, new relationships, and new experiences for you. He has a future and hope for your time of need and every situation you find yourself in.

It is during times of grief and loss that we can feel the pain of loneliness. As we carry the loss of someone (or something) that we hold dear, we can feel isolated from the people around us.

We see those who would want to comfort us but wonder how they could understand what we are going through. We may start to fear the future and wonder how we are going to move forward, alone.

It is in these moments of fear and anguish that we should turn to God’s promises. He is a God of comfort and He does understand what we are experiencing in the loss of human relationships. We are never alone, even if we feel that way. His presence is always with us.

Psalm 23:4

Woman sitting alone wondering what does the Bible say about loneliness in Psalm 23:4.
What does the Bible say about loneliness in Psalm 23:4

“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” (ESV)

This is a well-known verse and for good reason. We need this verse, sometimes more than we wish we did. 

To know that we can walk through darkness and not be afraid is a gift! God doesn’t promise simplicity in our lives but He does promise to comfort us.

He is the defender of widows and the mender of broken hearts. Just as sheep take refuge in the safety of their Shepherd, we can trust that there is no greater love than what our Heavenly Father has for us. 

As God’s people, He is with us. He will never leave nor forsake us!

2 Corinthians 1:3-4 

“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we receive from God.” (ESV)

It can feel wrong to give praise during our times of grief and pain.

When our hearts are overwhelmed with sorrow we forget who our comforter is and that He is still worthy of thanksgiving. We can do this through the power of the Holy Spirit living in us. 

Why? Because not only does he give us peace in troubling circumstances but He also allows us to see the pain others may be experiencing.

We are given the unique ability to comfort others with the same comfort our Heavenly Father gives us.

I recall speaking with a woman who said she experienced a hard loss and for years she didn’t understand why. Then when she had women who were close to her experience the same loss, she was able to comfort them especially because she understood their pain.

If we can comfort someone during their period of grief, our pain might be made worth it, even if just in a small way.

Why Loneliness Is a Gift From God

I know what you’re thinking…how is this a gift? How could feeling pain and sorrow be a good thing?

In the loneliest moments when we are clinging to God, we may not be able to see the usefulness of the gift, and that’s okay. But God always has a purpose in things that happen, even if they aren’t immediately apparent.

Often when we face times of loneliness, we draw closer to God. We lean on our Heavenly Father for support and it is in these moments we grow spiritually.

As we draw close to our Lord we develop a deeper connection with Him and perhaps He will uncover a new purpose for us as well as a new work of ministry. 

What Is God’s Answer to Loneliness

We all experience loneliness at times, whether we are a single woman or have been married for many years.

Married people sometimes feel isolated from one another if they drift apart. This can be a painful feeling of loneliness and make them long for that connection they once had.

The most important thing we need to remember in these moments of doubt is to turn to God. He is the answer to loneliness. There is nothing on this earth that will fill our empty souls like He will. 

It is by the grace of Christ Jesus that we have been saved and not for a life of constant pain and loneliness! We were created to live lives with fullness of joy and peace.

We were created to be connected to our Heavenly Father and it is in this connection that our loneliness will be washed away.

What to pray when you feel lonely

Draw close to God. He is a very present help in dark times. His purpose for your pain may be that He simply wants you to know Him in a deeper way.

As you spend time in His presence be comforted by the truth He has for you and pray this prayer:

Heavenly Father,

I come before your throne of grace and thank you that I am your child who will never be forsaken, regardless of where I live, how others view me,  or the circumstances I find myself in.

O Lord, You are my first defense and the God of all comfort. Sit with me during this period of loneliness, fill my soul with your love so that I may be reminded of your faithfulness in those lonely places.

Give me strength and wisdom to walk this path, not alone but in your presence so I may grow closer to you and seek you always!

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Alyssa is a teacher, turned stay-at-home mom and blogger. She seeks to encourage women, especially moms who want to bring God into their homes as they raise their families. When she isn’t writing she is pushing her boys on the swings and enjoying God’s great creation!

You can find Alyssa at Little Bit Of Lavender.

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